Success and Failure: Time To Redefine
I love talking to new people... hearing different points of view, different life experiences and how others are mixing it up in this grand adventure of life. And in a conversation with a lovely new friend recently, the topic of success and failure came up as they were expressing about their journey. They were reflecting on how they had tasted both the bitterness of failure and the sweetness of success along their path, with a notable preference for the successes and acceptance of what they considered "failure". Naturally, this got me thinking about my own journey…
I remember a time when I too used to view things that didn't quite go as I'd planned as failures, albeit a while ago. But never the less, it never did feel good... it was always riddled with some degree of guilt and judgement about myself or my performance. I do remember acknowledging at least, that there was always some good take away or "silver lining" in those failures, but those events were still viewed as "failures", none the less.
The Goal Setting paradigm
This got me thinking about our social structures and the concept of goal setting and targets in general. Our whole world and the systems contained within it are all centred around having us achieve goals, targets or objectives based on measurable results with a specific outcome in mind. And all the reward and acknowledgement that is distributed is based strictly on expectations of achieving those specific outcomes or "end results".
I realize that our systems function solely based on measurable criteria in order for them to self sustain — and that's an entirely different discussion ;) But what I'm talking about here is personal success and failure, and the thoughts we think that lead us to those judgements one way or the other.
Its not the final destination... but the journey along the way
There is a lot of talk these days about how "...its not the final destination that matters, but the journey along the way". If we believe that's really true, then it occurred to me that adhering to specific outcomes and deeming an outcome a "failure" if it doesn't meet the predetermined expectation doesn't really fit that supposedly more "progressive" model.
It should in fact, not just allow us to see the gifts or "silver lining" underneath those failures... but why not title them entirely differently as well? From failure to...